old fashion...

Nothing beats the interaction of two people meeting for the first time; the initial courtship of eyes requesting and eye-to-eye contact, the explicit silence of knowing that everything is going ok and that some things are not needed to be said. The comfort of being playful and opened because you feel welcomed. The wonder of finding how much you differ from one another,and yet to find that there're important key elements in common. The suspense of knowing if that person will accept to go out again, or if you'll be asked to go out, etc. What starts with a simple glance, an exchange of smiles, and the eloquence of body language is truly something so remarkable that needs to happen in person oppose to from behind a monitor. It's the case of my generation that dwell their hopes and hide their insecurities on cyberspace.
I do admit that I have sinned of such exciting and yet frustrating ritual. It's great to have the convenience of interacting with someone cybernetically. It's an advantage to establish the beginning of something from the comfort of your own room: no need to dress up, no sense of urgency, the feeling of privacy, all of the above w/o any expenses. The system works for many there's no doubt about it; what I see happening though is the over reliance on it. I've seen close friends or friends of other friends developing and almost addictive pattern of what they consider as "socializing." The idea of a physical encounter is exchanged for the versatility of multitasking from home.
It goes from being able to chat with someone special ,while attending house chores to meeting and exchanging thoughts with many at the same time.They refuse to go out and explore their options. It's blamed on the investment of time that many claim to lack, and doubtfully it's always the case. It's as simple as making time to stop for coffee. Even the most busiest professional will always be able to bend the routine , in order to make time for someone. It all comes down to the desire to really engage.
In my case, it has been successful a couple of times, but interactions that rely on "ill chat u up" have been 80% fated to fade. There's nothing like taking the time to meet someone for a movie, meal, or a drink. Friendships and romantic relationships need a physical nurturing to initiate and maintain. I know. I've lost contact with close friends. Even best friends fade and are replaced by someone else that's willing to see you and hang out ultimately.
Nothing like the old fashion way to meet friends and mates. Trust me, it's highly successful in every bit of the way. I recently rediscovered how positive it is.

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